What’s so important about staying present?
We drift off into our thoughts and miss most of what life is presenting to us.
Staying Present is about being in each moment and your ability to stay aware in it.
We are all trying to figure life out, that’s all we have to do while we are spinning on a planet in the middle of space.
I would like you to engage in a new thought process through this article to help you see something different with how you can be in each moment.
Check in with yourself and try on these possibilities to help keep you aware.
Surrender to what is to stay present.
There’s always two sides to everything you do.
What you want and what you don’t.
When we resist, we create more of what we don’t want, and it continues to stay constant in our lives.
This happens because you are closing yourself off to the flow of life.
We believe we have control of the things that happen.
Unfortunately, that’s not valid.
When you close yourself off to what is you are denying yourself the opportunity to grow.
That opportunity will come in many different forms until you surrender.
Surrender is about relinquishing the illusion of control.
I understand that doesn’t mean things will always be comfortable or fit into the picture-perfect creation that our minds have established for us.
That also means that things are exactly as they are supposed to be.
I’ve said it before and I’ll reiterate now, life is always teaching us about ourselves.
When circumstances arise that you initially want to run from, you must be bold and surrender to that moment/circumstance.
You will learn from it, if you aren’t too stubborn.
Then you can move forward and eventually get what you are hoping to obtain out of life.
Accepting your perception in the moment.
I hate to be the one to break it to you.
It’s not always rainbows and butterflies.
We have thoughts and beliefs that lead us to perceive the world/circumstances the way that we do.
When these thoughts/beliefs are confirmed by outside circumstances they turn into feelings/emotions.
I can only speak for myself here, denying what feelings I had, in the moment, shut me down as if I had to protect myself from something.
This was always in the negative circumstances life presented me with, yet I never had that challenge with the positive situations. How about you?
Do you wonder why that is?
When things fit with the picture you have painted in your mind (thoughts/beliefs) of the way it is supposed to be, it evokes positive feelings.
Not many of us deny those.
When things don’t fit, we overthink and make things up to make them fit into what is acceptable to our mind.
Why can’t we just accept it?
Because it’s uncomfortable and we don’t like to feel that way.
We want to stay safe.
However, what’s on the other side of that discomfort is acceptance.
We are human, we don’t need to judge ourselves for having what we perceive are negative feelings.
Learning to be OK with not being OK holds such freedom.
Freedom from the need to make things fit being picture perfect and freedom from the stress of overthinking.
Your perception of all moments allows you to see the barriers you have created in your mind, and once you accept that perception you can learn so much about yourself.
Observe your inner voice all the time.
Just be still for one second and listen.
What do you hear? Is your mind busy with thoughts?
Do you hear it as your own voice?
If you are asking “what voice?” That’s the voice.
That voice can be your best friend and your worst enemy.
Depending on each situation.
Most people think that voice is who you are.
That voice is your thoughts.
Your thoughts are not who you are.
We believe everything that runs through our minds, especially if we think it often enough.
I encourage you to begin listening to that voice as if it were your best friend.
If your best friend said mean things you certainly would not spend much time with them or give any credibility to what they were saying.
As a matter of fact, they likely wouldn’t be your best friend for long, so don’t let that negative inner voice dictate how you respond to life.
If that voice is constantly telling you “You aren’t good enough” or “No one cares about you,” you could experience the world as cold and hateful.
Ignore those things and listen wholeheartedly when that voice says, “You are worthy” and “You are loved.”
Listening in a manner of observation can help you see why you experience life the way you do.
This will give you the opportunity to respond to life in the present rather than react to the cause of your negative thoughts.
Conclusion
What it boils down to is every moment is an opportunity to start over and be present.
Every single one and we have opportunities in every moment to choose how we experience life.
Surrender to them.
The answer will always be provided to you from within when you listen to the voice of wisdom.
There will be times when you can’t hear that voice and you will want clarity; in those moments I encourage you to reach out to me or purchase my Phoenix Program Workbook to start you on the path.
You and greatness belong together, showing you what’s possible is my specialty.
Johnny says
This has hit home with me deeply. It is amazing how we all operate in our feelings and can get lost in them. Feelings can if we choose to let them I agree to rob us or allow us to live the life we truly we’re meant to live. When we consider the joy that can be attained. It can move the most stubborn of insecurities and free us from the chains of despair that we subconsciously allow to happen. End of the day it’s about living life to the fullest and to understand we only have one to live. We just need to ask ourselves what is my choice going to be.
Missy Ordiway says
Thanks John, I always appreciate your insight.