Who the hell are the Jones’?
I know we have all heard the term, “Keeping up with the Jones.”
Have you ever wondered why we do that?
Why we don’t feel good enough if we don’t have what someone else has?
Our uniqueness and the journey we are on is designed especially for us.
So, when did the grass become greener on the other side?
Let’s dig into these categories to show us what really happens when we covet another’s life.
Ugh…the not enoughness that you feel when you look at what you have versus someone whose life has more, is better and different than your own.
When we compare where we are, unless it’s to someone whose life is worse off than our own, to someone who seems to have it all we feel not good enough.
This doesn’t end up boosting our esteem, it drowns it.
We should be excited for where other people are, not envious.
Learning from their experiences could save us tons of time.
Instead, we go into debt attempting to keep up with what they are doing.
And, sometimes those people are just putting on a show.
Don’t forget people only tell you what they want you to know, especially on social media.
Everyone lives a charmed life in images.
Don’t get down on yourself because you aren’t where they are, you can’t get where you are going if you are always focused on where you are at.
This is a similar experience to comparison; however, it goes deeper than a surface level faux pas.
Jealousy is insecurity and unworthiness.
The feeling of jealousy reveals about you the way you interpret your worth.
If there are things another person has that make you jealous, it reveals that you connect better with inanimate energy rather than life force energy.
Things make you feel important, usually this is due to a lack of allowing intimacy in your life.
With your thoughts you have shut down the connection between you and other people.
Whether you know it or not, shutting off that connection is impossible.
To be disconnected would mean that you are those inanimate objects. That can never be.
On the other hand, if you are jealous of another’s body, love life or physicality it reveals your lack of confidence and security in your own physicality.
You are looking on the outside of yourself for your importance, love and worthiness.
All those things are a given as soon as we are born into this world.
With conditioning we forget those things exist in our natural state.
We don’t need to try to find them, we are them, we always will be, our thoughts elude us in believing that we are not.
We do this all the time.
As humans we put connotations of good/bad or right/wrong on everything, not just other people.
Our judgements against ourselves are just as bad as the ones we put on others.
So, when we are “Keeping up with the Jones,” we tend to make ourselves or them bad and wrong.
We aren’t typically happy for the Jones’.
We want what they have and are pissed off because they have it and we don’t. External Judgment.
Or we become martyrs of not being good enough or worthy enough to have whatever they have. Internal Judgement.
Either way this doesn’t serve us.
In being joyful or excited for someone else’s success we bring more of that to ourselves.
Cheering each other on helps us create a sense of openness to what the universe offers.
Not only for others but extremely so for ourselves.
You see, we can have whatever anyone else has, we are capable of what others can do.
Your sense of being is where you need to most be aware, because when we come from a space of love, joy, excitement and bliss for others that’s how we bring that back to ourselves.
If you are comparing yourself, being jealous of or judging others you will only get that in return.
Become the love, light and joy that you are meant to be for yourself and others in your life.
Hatefulness only poisons the vessel in which it’s stored.
You can choose not to listen to the thoughts, let them go like a helium balloon in the breeze.
I invite you to be mindful of these three hateful parasites who live in your thoughts, when you recognize them, kindly tell them to STFU.
And remember, it happens to all of us, this is the human experience, you aren’t bad or wrong yourself for having these thoughts.
Thoughts come out of the blue and we don’t have any control of what we think.
They are the formless energy, just another thing, although the more you focus on them, the faster they become form.
So, focus on what you want and be aware of what you attach yourself to believing.
I know you will accomplish whatever you put your mind to, and we all need a little help sometimes.
If there comes a time when you need assistance, reach out to me for a coaching call or purchase my Phoenix Program Workbook.
Loving yourself is the key to achieving your greatness and these resources were created just for you.