If anyone on this Earth understands the “ick” you feel when we talk about vulnerability, I promise it’s me.
I love feelings they are wonderful, well at least when we are discussing joy, love, happiness and bliss.
Those are all fantastic ways of being.
However, vulnerability is about the shadow side of our feelings.
The ones that we shove so deeply inside of ourselves so that there is no trace of them on the exterior.
I get it, I used to build a wall, and no one knew how I was eating myself alive on the inside.
Letting the wall down is scary and you can benefit from it.
If you are curious as to what freedom you might get out of it, I’m happy to share so please continue reading.
1. Releasing your burdens
You have a heavy load of trapped feelings you have been carrying around.
Seeming like you have it all together is a fulltime job.
Not letting anyone in on the pain, sadness or unhappiness you feel.
You hardened your heart towards sharing what’s going on with you…since no one cares anyway.
These are the burdens I’m talking about; the human experience is our perception of life’s circumstance.
We perceive the world based on those types of thoughts.
Humans don’t want to discuss the things that we aren’t good at, we don’t even want to think of them.
Yet there is a pattern of thought like that which is holding you.
People don’t know what’s going on with you, you don’t tell them.
Of course, they think you are fine, you don’t share your challenges.
No one wants to be the energy suck on anyone else, yet we forget that people don’t read minds.
In connection with another person you don’t have to be the victim to your circumstance.
Sharing is releasing the burden of thought that you created after those circumstances.
Even though I learned how to share in kindergarten, feelings weren’t at the top of my list.
When I realized that in sharing, I showed others I was human I felt freedom from my fears and the weight of the world was no longer mine to bear.
2. Being truly authentic
When you protect a side of yourself so that others can’t experience it you are hiding.
We tend to dim our lights because it’s inappropriate or not the social norm.
We hate to be different.
Think about this for just a second, do babies do that?
Hell no, when they are pissed, they share it with the world.
When they don’t like someone, they hide behind their parents.
If they don’t want food, they spit it out.
Seriously, we could learn a lot watching what children do and mimicking their behavior.
Now I’m not trying to create a public food fight, I just want you to see how you believe that it’s unacceptable to be or act a certain way.
Children only learn that from adults.
We judge ourselves for being embarrassing, angry, jealous, messy, unkempt or insecure.
Aren’t we all on a path of growth to becoming better versions of ourselves?
While we are all learning we should be authentic with the way we feel, it will teach us so much about where we are on our journey and what we need to continue to work on.
You don’t always have to act on your feelings and that takes practice.
We will always have work to do on ourselves, we get to accept that and be real about where we are.
Just be gentle to yourself, as you would a child.
Being free to be you can bring more peace to your experience and reveal the masterpiece you truly are.
3. Receiving support.
I can’t even begin to share with you how overwhelming this can be.
Letting others care for you, sharing with them your needs and watching your needs be filled.
When you have been hiding and keeping yourself closed off from others for so long receiving support is challenging.
And receiving support is nothing short of brilliant.
This can break your walls down faster than you could ever imagine.
All the fears that you have diminish, all the lies that you have told yourself for so long are shattered.
We have been looking for reasons and proof for so long to stay away from others and being vulnerable in front of them leaves you exposed.
But what happens next is magical.
Once you experience letting others support you, any feelings of unworthiness will dissipate.
I say it’s overwhelming because you recognize how much people care, want to connect with you on a deeper level and that you really are perfect as you are.
That seems impossible after playing it safe for so long from behind the wall.
I can assure you not only that it’s possible, there is freedom from being trapped in the thought that you must do it all by yourself.
We are all here on this planet to help ferry one another through anything that we can.
Helping others and being helped is part of the balance in life we are all working to create.
4. Letting in love.
Where is the love?
News Flash!! It’s been there all along.
When we close ourselves off from the world what we are really doing is closing our hearts.
Feeling negative emotions is the “ick” I was discussing in the beginning.
When we push against those feelings, we are trapping them and closing our hearts from feeling at all.
I encourage you to let those feeling flow through you.
They are the number one reason you don’t feel happy in life.
Love is always flowing to you and from you.
With a closed heart you won’t experience that love.
You are screwing up the flow of life.
I had an experience once where I was held in high regard, all I can remember during that experience was being baffled that they would choose me.
I had hardened my heart so much that I couldn’t even let the love in because I was too busy feeling undeserving of what was happening.
That experience changed me.
I saw how I denied myself the opportunities that life was presenting me.
I was too busy experiencing life through a negative filter that when something amazing was happening I couldn’t even enjoy it.
Accepting what anyone offers is a great way to get started on letting the love in, even if you pass it on to someone else.
Surrender to each moment and know that as you are receiving love, you are giving love, experience the freedom of knowing you can do both at once.
You are deserving of all the love in the universe, so let that in.
At the end of the day, no one likes being scared, trapped in our thoughts and alone for too long.
The best way I can encourage you to deepen your connection with another is share with them your burdens.
People love to help others in need, especially me.
I’m available for coaching and feel the most alive when I am helping others achieve their greatness.
You can also purchase my Phoenix Program Workbook to help you achieve a healthier level of self-love.
Freedom starts from the inside out and being vulnerable will help you experience that freedom when you let it.