Understand that not everyone needs to set boundaries.
Most people already have them in place.
Although there are a few of us who as emotional empaths need to be firm in our stand.
Sometimes this isn’t the case because we give in to people-pleasing.
What are boundaries?
Have you ever had someone asked you to do something that you really didn’t want to do, but you did it anyway?
They might want to consider setting boundaries.
Boundaries are absolute, they are a predetermined set of things you will or will not do.
Speaking from experience I can tell you that when we say yes to things that we don’t want to do, we become pushovers.
Unfortunately, this leads to people walking all over you. Not a good thing.
Boundaries help you stand in your power because you are setting your focus on what you want.
The purpose of boundaries
I’m sure you know some people will take advantage of someone with no boundaries.
First and foremost, I love to give.
Giving makes you feel incredible. You get to use whatever resources you have to care for a fellow human.
Doing for others makes you feel connected, wholesome and loving.
And here’s the catch, I want to feel led to give.
Now if there’s a friend in need, by all means, I hope they ask you and I hope you are led to say yes.
It’s when you aren’t led to give that you need boundaries if you are the type to want to please people.
Being direct is important. When you waver ever so slightly that’s when you can be easily coerced into saying yes.
The main purpose in setting boundaries so that you don’t end up doing things you don’t want to do.
Building a wall of happiness
Please don’t misinterpret this section, I don’t want you to shut down.
You always want to be open, your openness leads to limitless possibilities of happiness.
And this is a great metaphor.
Think of a boundary as a wall, this wall may be invisible, ahowever, when you bump into it you know your limit is reached.
Those on the outside of that wall will feel the strength of your decision.
And don’t you see how this can lead to a happier version of you?
Your life can be changed so drastically by implementing boundaries.
If for no other reason, do it for your happiness, not everyone else’s.
Remember, when you need to, just say no. No further explanation is necessary.
Until next Wednesday loves,